Something I don't understand

[paecmaker]

If you are tired of always explaining to them why you dont smoke or drink dont tell them. Just tell them that you simply dont want to try and its because of personal matters. Ask them if they are ok with that and hope for a yes, its not like their whole world ruptures because you dont want to smoke weed or anything.

[Ailithic]

haha I doubt, To put it bluntly that even if he did people wouldn't care much. It would be a good display of self worth but would it get his point across? possibly not mainly because they aren't particularly worried about whether he does or not they just want him to fit into their standards. (Or they wanna annoy him).

either way he needs to slowly set his boundaries make sure people are clear with them and if they can't accept it then they shouldn't be noticed (saying that I am clear friends are important and didn't want to say they aren't worth the time of day if they can't accept you for who you are, because I don't fully understand his [YOUR] situation)